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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 03:57 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Joining QZ has recently reinvigorated my first musical love, so a quick Amazon visit, and i have some CD versions of my trusty and dodgy old cassette Queen albums.
Tonight I play play Queen II and when it gets to Fairy Fella / Nevermore / Black Queen, I tell my wife, "..sit down and listen to this, it really is amazing, complex, beautiful..." blah, blah...
So she sits, opens a book, and basically ignores the music (on my $3000 hi-fi!!!) - In frustration i ask, "..why aren`t you listening?.."
"I don`t like this kind of music, I appreciate its complex but I want to watch American Idol..."

So thats what she`s doing right now.

Do I admit now, we are incompatible, and divorce? Is it possible to respect someone that can ignore timeless, classic music in favour of 3rd rate trashy performance?
*dazed and confused*

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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 05:38 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Live and let live...

...........there must be other good and even more important reasons, why she became your wife...;-)

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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 06:26 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

It's frustrating but there's nothing you can do about it. You can't force anyone to like something you like. That's why we're here, when the people around us can't appreciate this kind of music, we share our passion with other queenzoners.

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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 06:46 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

"Off with her head !"  :-)

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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 09:43 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I'm presuming you're not *really* going to leave your wife over Queen II.  LOL  But you know there is a lot of truth in the feeling of wanting people we like to like the things we do.  Music in particular is so often used as a means of connection and shared passion.  Several years ago one of the most passionate and certain courtships of my life was conducted in no small part  through the long distance sharing of songs.  I was thinking about him just last night, and thinking that we were among the last people to do it like we did, before the YouTube generation made sharing music as easy as sharing a link.  Then you had to wait to upload it, wait to download it, and there was a certain anticipation and commitment to the process that deepened the sense of a shared but private experience.  Conversely, there have definitely been times I have perceived something like loneliness because my significant other wasn't moved or inspired by the things that evoke some sense of passion in me.  So all in all I think it's just part of life.

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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 10:22 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Different music, different approach.
It's not always the same, sometimes "better" or "worse" aren't enough.


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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 10:48 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

ActionFletch wrote: Joining QZ has recently reinvigorated my first musical love, so a quick Amazon visit, and i have some CD versions of my trusty and dodgy old cassette Queen albums.
Tonight I play play Queen II and when it gets to Fairy Fella / Nevermore / Black Queen, I tell my wife, "..sit down and listen to this, it really is amazing, complex, beautiful..." blah, blah...
So she sits, opens a book, and basically ignores the music (on my $3000 hi-fi!!!) - In frustration i ask, "..why aren`t you listening?.."
"I don`t like this kind of music, I appreciate its complex but I want to watch American Idol..."

So thats what she`s doing right now.

Do I admit now, we are incompatible, and divorce? Is it possible to respect someone that can ignore timeless, classic music in favour of 3rd rate trashy performance?
*dazed and confused*

I'm not married, but I'd have just slapped her across the face. Sometimes ya gotta get yer message across, ya know?? Maybe mention the fact that you're wondering why you married her in the first place.  ;)

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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 11:50 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Quality music is like quality food or wine.  It is an acquired taste over many years of dedicated listening.  It's not for everybody, and it's certainly no reason to break up a marriage !  Although it would be a great story to tell the kids..


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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 13:16 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Tie her to a chair, Gag, Blindfold her & then place headphones on her, volume up loud, repeat over & over until she subconsciously starts humming "Father to Son"

of course I'm only joking!!!!!!


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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 13:24 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Well, I hope at least the sex is good.

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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 14:01 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

lol! All the comments above, have brightened up my day, thanks!

And GratefulFan, - those are some deep and true sentiments about sharing the things we love with the people we love!

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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 15:36 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Side B of Queen II is quity heavy... maybe you can play Don't Try Suicide next time?

LOL

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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 17:58 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I dont hate American Idol. Me and my lovy love to hear new talent!
ok...waiting for 2 or 3 good ''want-to-be'' is boring...but we let our critique side fun it! ;)

So...to be breif !  your lovy seams to prefer girly  pop-out-of-a can music.
Enjoy what you enjoy alone or with those who fan the same things you do.
Love your lovy for what you can share ;)

I'm happy you have found the Queen zone!

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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 19:08 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

When I first got with my partner Phillippa, I told her instantaniously about my passion for Queen music - it's one of the first things I feel I *have* to do when getting involved with someone, just to let them know just how important the music, as well as the collecting, is to me.  Her response - "oh, fuck no, not another one" (her dad is a big fan, and had pretty much all the albums). I thought "great", we're going to get on like a house on fire lol.  But actually, we did, and still do.  Her musical taste, AFAIC, is up her arse. Or , at least, I used to think that way!  For I have started getting into some of the stuff she likes - like REM and Arcade Fire.  On the flipside, I have noticed small things like her going around humming Innuendo, wanting to go to see WWRY and Gary Mullen, and waiting outside theatres for 5 hours in the cold to meet Brian May.  It's kinda just worked it's way into her life.  Eventually, it will with your mrs, too.  And if it doesn't, then live and let live, as another poster has said.

Btw, although I spend a great deal of my time listening to them, watching them, reading/ typing about them and generally thinking Queen, there's room for American Idol and the X factor too!


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Posted: 03 Mar 11, 23:53 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

THE most ridiculous title for a thread I've seen in a long while.

What do you care whether anyone likes it or not?  And what's your response.......head home, stick the original vinyl on and wank furiously, screaming that you love this music?

Idiot.


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Posted: 04 Mar 11, 01:25 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Well Benn......

The story is genuine but the sentiment is a piss-take as you might have realised if you`d understood GratefulFans` comment or my original vibe.
But after reading numerous threads, thats also the danger of joining QZ - there really IS a lot of "idiots"?

I assume you`re looking for a reaction? Like anyone (including myself) who posts on the internet.

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Posted: 04 Mar 11, 01:34 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I find it ridiculous, anyways. If people can't enjoy great music, then it's not so great... right?
What's the point in having THE BEST SONG EVER if nobody likes it or if you really think you need some knowledge to appreciate it. Of course everything needs some knowledge to appreciate it better but shouldn't it be the only thing.

I mean, we're suppossed to like good music because it should be tasteful as well.

If 28734623345 persons like Somebody to Love, that doesn't make them people with good taste... it makes them "normal" xD

I'd be shocked if they didn't like it!

for example.


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Posted: 04 Mar 11, 04:11 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Divorce!


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Posted: 04 Mar 11, 06:04 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

As Freddie said, "We'll give you grounds for divorce" LOL

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Posted: 04 Mar 11, 07:21 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Benn wrote: THE most ridiculous title for a thread I've seen in a long while.

What do you care whether anyone likes it or not?  And what's your response.......head home, stick the original vinyl on and wank furiously, screaming that you love this music?

Idiot.
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Whoah, steady on.  Unlike your rather over-the-top response, the original post was only tongue-in-cheek.  In fact, one of the first things I said to my mrs (ironically because she didn't like Queen II) was "what am I going to do with you?".  It's just a saying mate, calm down.


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