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Posted: 30 Mar 12, 12:38 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Freddie's dad is the only member of the Bulsara family stayed always in the shadow. The relationship with his son is not documented almost anywhere and either if he was strict, proud or disapproving to Fred.Any insights?


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Posted: 30 Mar 12, 12:38 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

STELIOS wrote:
Freddie's dad is the only member of the Bulsara family stayed always in the shadow. The relationship with his son is not documented almost anywhere and either if he was strict, proud or disapproving to Fred.Any insights?




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Posted: 30 Mar 12, 13:41 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Freddie's father still alive?

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Posted: 30 Mar 12, 14:49 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

No he is dead.


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Posted: 30 Mar 12, 15:08 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

He was very disappointed with Hot Space and stopped speaking to Freddie for 4 years.

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Posted: 30 Mar 12, 17:05 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

he didn't think a fat lot about "crazy little thing called love" either...think that was the first rift in the relationship


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Posted: 31 Mar 12, 11:00 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I don't think it was a close father and son relationship,although i think both his mum and dad loved Freddie very much ,but found his lifestyle difficult to understand.

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Posted: 01 Apr 12, 04:19 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

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he didn't think a fat lot about "crazy little thing called love" either...think that was the first rift in the relationship


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Posted: 01 Apr 12, 04:20 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Micrówave wrote:
He was very disappointed with Hot Space and stopped speaking to Freddie for 4 years.


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Posted: 01 Apr 12, 08:49 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Both Freddies parents attended one of the 86 Wembley shows. They normally went to at least one show on every tour. They also attended the Tribute concert in 92 and His mother went to shows on both Queen+PR tours.

I would imagine if his father wasn't interested in Freddie or disliked what he did or stood for he would never have gone to any of the shows. Brian's and Freddie's parents met at the Hammersmith Odeon in 75

I think Freddies Father was a quiet, may be shy person, so maybe that added to the misconception that he and Freddie weren't close

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Posted: 01 Apr 12, 11:10 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

A word in your ear from father to son.

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Posted: 01 Apr 12, 13:10 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

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Both Freddies parents attended one of the 86 Wembley shows. They normally went to at least one show on every tour. They also attended the Tribute concert in 92 and His mother went to shows on both Queen+PR tours.
I would imagine if his father wasn't interested in Freddie or disliked what he did or stood for he would never have gone to any of the shows. Brian's and Freddie's parents met at the Hammersmith Odeon in 75
I think Freddies Father was a quiet, may be shy person, so maybe that added to the misconception that he and Freddie weren't close


Thank you for the only serious answer to an interesting question.

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Posted: 02 Apr 12, 07:10 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

From what we know Zanzibar is not so proud for Freddie. The value system is obviously completely against Freddie's choices and to some digree we can assume that his father had a greater respcet on that tradition than the rest of the family.
With Patriarchy beeing one of the top values in that system Freddies gayness and flamboyant persona could have caused friction and distance.

All this of course is assumption but i remember reading somewhere that Freddie kept presenting Mary as his "common wife" when his parents visited home.
I have the feeling that deep down Freddie kept needing to prove himshelf to his father. And i am focusing on him becouse from his mothers/sisters interviews you get the feeling that Jer and Kashmira always had a good understanding for Fred.
Who knows...


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Posted: 04 Apr 12, 23:44 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

STELIOS wrote:
From what we know Zanzibar is not so proud for Freddie. The value system is obviously completely against Freddie's choices and to some digree we can assume that his father had a greater respcet on that tradition than the rest of the family.
With Patriarchy beeing one of the top values in that system Freddies gayness and flamboyant persona could have caused friction and distance.
All this of course is assumption but i remember reading somewhere that Freddie kept presenting Mary as his "common wife" when his parents visited home.
I have the feeling that deep down Freddie kept needing to prove himshelf to his father. And i am focusing on him becouse from his mothers/sisters interviews you get the feeling that Jer and Kashmira always had a good understanding for Fred.
Who knows...


In Jim Hutton's book he said that when Freddie's parents were visiting at Garden Lodge one of his parents asked who Jim was. Freddie said he was the gardener. The parent asked where did he stay. Freddie said in the pink room.

What kind of relationship can a child have with his parents when his parents ship him off to a boarding school in a distant country?


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Posted: 05 Apr 12, 01:14 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I remember reading some time ago where Freddie insinuated that he and his father never really had a close relationship...more of a handshake instead of hugs! This may have been common with the culture however, it may also explain Freddie's need to feel needed, and needing others approval as we so often have read about!

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Posted: 05 Apr 12, 02:57 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

jpf wrote:
STELIOS wrote:
From what we know Zanzibar is not so proud for Freddie. The value system is obviously completely against Freddie's choices and to some digree we can assume that his father had a greater respcet on that tradition than the rest of the family.
With Patriarchy beeing one of the top values in that system Freddies gayness and flamboyant persona could have caused friction and distance.
All this of course is assumption but i remember reading somewhere that Freddie kept presenting Mary as his "common wife" when his parents visited home.
I have the feeling that deep down Freddie kept needing to prove himshelf to his father. And i am focusing on him becouse from his mothers/sisters interviews you get the feeling that Jer and Kashmira always had a good understanding for Fred.
Who knows...

In Jim Hutton's book he said that when Freddie's parents were visiting at Garden Lodge one of his parents asked who Jim was. Freddie said he was the gardener. The parent asked where did he stay. Freddie said in the pink room.
What kind of relationship can a child have with his parents when his parents ship him off to a boarding school in a distant country?


Boarding schools must damage the relationship with the parents.I am sceptical about boarding schols. I think they are generaly good from a personality strenght aspect. And i believe a lot of traits in Freddie's charachter have their roots there. I remember him sayng that he learnd to fend for himshelf there.
But on another level they may be traumatic due to the violent separation from the family.And i think Freddie also had scars from that.Even that hidden agony i could always witness to him, may not be so irrelevant.


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Posted: 09 Apr 12, 01:20 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

From what we know Zanzibar is not so proud for Freddie
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Where the hell is Zanzibar? a mars valley???

Whatever Freddie choices his dad will always love him, you can bet on it....

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