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Posted: 07 Jun 12, 12:17 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

How many of you wouldn't date or marry or even consider a personal relationship with someone who didn't share your taste in music? Specifically, Queen. Did go out with a guy who disliked Queen, one day I was listening to Freddie and he turned it off. Tha nerve. I've decided it's a very important issue. Goofy topic but hey, humour me. Thanks.
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Posted: 07 Jun 12, 13:13 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

i'll humour you...definitely not important in any sphere at all

what someone likes...musically or otherwise is of no great importance...only things that matter is an agreed philosphy of what's right/wrong and common decency (been married 23 years and my wife hates queen, and i don't particularly like her faves (t-rex) ....beyond that....identical tastes are nowhere near important

in fact some key sayings worth considering:

variety is the spice of life
familiarity breeds contempt


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Posted: 07 Jun 12, 13:40 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Well, you sure made me feel stupid. LOL. Seriously though, you are correct but I do blast my music sorta loud at times and would hate it if the person I loved cringed. I prefer identical tastes in some things. Being the best of friends is ultimately important and I congratulate you for finding that.

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Posted: 07 Jun 12, 16:27 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

we ALL blast our music

someone who loves/really likes you will accept that

my wife tolerates my stuff being played at "20" and i (almost) accept marc bolan being played....

we do have some common ground though...mainly 60s stuff like the beatles


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Posted: 08 Jun 12, 03:16 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I could not live with someone who plays Hip Hop and rap all the time because I simply cannot tolerate it. Apart from that I listen to all kinds of music and I would not make musical taste a criterion. Certainly I could not live with someone who turns off my music without asking - I do not tolerate rude people, either. I think that mutual respect is more important than anything else and most issues do not matter when you respect each other.


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Posted: 08 Jun 12, 04:13 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Not being able to have a relationship with someone who doesnt share your taste in music is incredibly shallow.

IMHO

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Posted: 08 Jun 12, 09:57 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

mooghead wrote:
Not being able to have a relationship with someone who doesnt share your taste in music is incredibly shallow.
IMHO

Actually I have known a punk who ended a long relationship after he found out that his girlfriend HATES The Ramones :-)

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Posted: 08 Jun 12, 10:46 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

mooghead wrote:
Not being able to have a relationship with someone who doesnt share your taste in music is incredibly shallow.
IMHO

and even more narrow than shallow


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Posted: 08 Jun 12, 12:56 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

In retrospect I should have written more of my thoughts. Of course differences in music doesn't make or break a relationship! Me? hardly narrow-minded nor shallow. But then you don't know my story...or me. Yes, the person I mentioned suddenly turned off my music and it annoyed me, I found it rude. Also, I'm sorry, maybe narrow to some but if I had to listen to rap blasting in my ears I'd have to walk away. I tolerate it a bit with my daughter, she likes some rap.

I live in a converted school bus with two children and have for years. I am very creative, I work hard, I am not predjudiced against, age, race, financial standing, religion, politics, but yes, I have my opinions. Differences can be a good thing!

Thank you for your responses, I DO wish my hips were more narrow, my mind is not. :-)

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Posted: 08 Jun 12, 12:59 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

YourValentine wrote:
I could not live with someone who plays Hip Hop and rap all the time because I simply cannot tolerate it. Apart from that I listen to all kinds of music and I would not make musical taste a criterion. Certainly I could not live with someone who turns off my music without asking - I do not tolerate rude people, either. I think that mutual respect is more important than anything else and most issues do not matter when you respect each other.


Thanks, I agree, even though I do listen to a little hip-hop and some rap due to daughter. Rudely turning off someones music isn't good, then going off on a rant about Freddie being a fag. Of course there were other intolerable differences with he and I, that wasn't the only thing.



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Posted: 08 Jun 12, 13:02 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

pittrek wrote:
mooghead wrote:
Not being able to have a relationship with someone who doesnt share your taste in music is incredibly shallow.
IMHO

Actually I have known a punk who ended a long relationship after he found out that his girlfriend HATES The Ramones :-)


I dated an old punk musician. I liked some of his music. His stories were even better, about punk culture in England when it all first started.

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Posted: 08 Jun 12, 16:35 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Missreclusive, I really do agree with you. It's a very important thing for having a good relationship. It may not be the case for each situation, but since people tend to find their other half with similar music tastes it's very actual actually.

I've never dated anyone in reality (yes, I'm too young actually). But I kind of have a relationship on the Internet these days. My girlfriend is a Queen fan (which is very important for me), and she's a fan of old music as well. We have a lot in common. The only problem is that she lives far away from me and she's four years older than me.

Having said that, I would never have a relationship with someone who doesn't like rock music.


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Posted: 09 Jun 12, 10:38 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

This reminded me of another thread from ago. Thought the OP might like to see those thoughts.

http://www.queenzone.com/forums/1262477/what-do-you-do-with-someone-that-doesn-t-appeciate-side-b-of-queen-ii.aspx?page=1


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Posted: 09 Jun 12, 12:36 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

GratefulFan wrote:

This reminded me of another thread from ago. Thought the OP might like to see those thoughts.

http://www.queenzone.com/forums/1262477/what-do-you-do-with-someone-that-doesn-t-appeciate-side-b-of-queen-ii.aspx?page=1




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Posted: 09 Jun 12, 12:38 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

And what I meant to say, and the post did not post...thank you for that! If I had found it I wouldn't have started this thread. Some of those contributors are hilarious.

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Posted: 10 Jun 12, 16:52 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

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Rudely turning off someones music isn't good, then going off on a rant about Freddie being a fag.

He did that? Yeah, that's not very good. I'm not gay myself, but I would find it extremely difficult to go out with someone who doesn't accept gay marriage/rights; it's one of the few topics I actually feel strongly about. I'm just glad that, for youth today in America, there's an overwhelming amount of acceptance for homosexuality. Different taste in music is one thing, disliking Freddie because "he's a fag," is completely different. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be able to handle that.

More on topic, music taste is a small factor, but won't make or break anything for me. Finding someone who I actually like AND appreciates Queen as much as I do would be wonderful, but not completely necessary.


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Posted: 10 Jun 12, 16:55 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

i used to think similar music taste was important, but i really don't think so anymore... you can learn to appreciate other types of music (both of you) and if not, you can learn to use headphones! I want someone i can go to gigs with, but most people enjoy more then one type of music, so its easy enough to find good live music. So i don't think it matters at all, although it's nice to have good music on in the car or whatever.

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Posted: 11 Jun 12, 06:59 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

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And what I meant to say, and the post did not post...thank you for that! If I had found it I wouldn't have started this thread. Some of those contributors are hilarious.


You're unlikely to have found it. I knew it was there and it took me 10 minutes! :) As long as they're not too tired, I actually like when subjects come around again. Whether it's a reintroduction or an old thread bumped it!s interesting to see how thoughts have evolved. There was an old Lady Gaga thread bumped recently where I noted that I had went on a long ramble in defense of her talent. It made me smile because I just wouldn't do that today. Not because I feel particularly differently but because I don't think she needs the defense. Did she then? Don't know. But something either with me or with her has changed enough in a year that I just wouldn't yak that much about it now. The thread I pointed out to you has a reply from me that recalled instantly a particular state of mind at that time. My response today would likely be subtly different. So I think it's neat to have these staggered records of thoughts on similar subjects.

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Posted: 11 Jun 12, 07:00 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Double post. I'll use the opportunity to note that while musical taste may not be a particularly good reason to select or reject a partner, there is almost certainly something about it that is reflective of personality that nonetheless may be a predictor of longer term happiness with a partner. Opposites may attract sometimes but differences in personality can really grind down a relationship as you deal with day to day stuff. I read an interesting study about just that in the past. It concluded that most people choose partners based on shared values and goals and more superficial common interests because the intricacies of personality simply take much longer to glean. The study indictated that the single biggest predictor of marital satisfaction was similarity in personality on the standard 'Big Five' personality inventory. Just one study, and I'm sure other studies and personal experience may contradict it, but I did find it interesting.

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Posted: 11 Jun 12, 09:04 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

It wouldn't cross my mind to make an issue of musical taste when it comes to relationships. On the other hand, musical taste might make an issue of itself - I wouldn't want to be the person living with me if she doesn't like my music, because I'm afraid she just wouldn't enjoy herself very much.

If I were dating someone whose music I didn't like, I'd just try my best to ignore it and gently nudge her in the direction of music we both enjoy.


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