Love is tricky, and I am so confused by it also. I guess there is like different degrees of love.
New infatuation love = Where you really don't know them well enough but what you do know makes you feel all goofy inside.
Compassion love = where you see something in an individual that strikes your compassion and you want to reach out to them.
Passion love = an arousal type of love associated with lust.
Committed love = when you have vowed to be by the side of a said loved one forever no matter what........unless things get to the point that you are so unhappy and have reached the end of the love knot and the love once shared is beyond mending.
At this point, there are choices to be made such as:
We have stuck it out this long maybe we should just do nothing and exist out of convenience and comfortable familiarity.
I don't want to live like a ghostly existence any longer. Either we work hard to get past this or we move on in separate directions.
Either way, it's all very painful and changes are often intimidating and frightening.
Sorry if this just makes it worse for you.