Thank you so much for replying to my request and for giving such sound advice. Funnily enough, your advice was very similar to one of my friends. I guess what gets to me is that my husband put his two cents in at every turn when there were problems with my kids and yet he doesn't want to listen to me when it comes to his kids. Actually, the twelve year old lad is quite good, its just his daughter that is the problem.
But you are right in that I just have to leave it alone and deal with it however it is at times completely frustrating.
Again, thank you so very much Lisser, you are very sweet to try to help.
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