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Posted: 05 Sep 05, 21:54 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I'm looking for a bit of advice on a situation I'm currently in. I'll explain the story...

5 or so years ago I became best friends with a guy (let's name him John, that's not his name though) and we went out (but that was in fifth grade, when we were only 10, who takes elementary relationships seriously??) and after we "broke up" we still stayed best friends. I'm now in 10th grade (15 years old) and about six months ago he totally stopped talking to me and started hanging out with the seniors (17-18 yr olds). But for the past year and a half I've had a lot of mixed emotions (meaning, I basically feel like I love the guy) about John.

Friday night I went to a high school game hoping to reflame our relationship. But then, I saw this whore of a girl with him and now she's his gf. I totally exploded. AND she may be possibly a college student (18+ years). WTF?! Ugh, I don't understand. He's never been like this before and when I tried to talk to him, he didn't noticed me. She honestly isn't very attractive. I don't understand.

I need advice because I really love this guy and I want to at least become friends again, but he doesn't know I feel this way about him. What would you guys do? Plz hlp.... thx so much!

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Posted: 05 Sep 05, 23:18 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

ignore him. or, if you know his email/ im, leave a message. or, even better, slip a note to him.

thats what i would do....sorry if it is not much help...


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Posted: 06 Sep 05, 04:53 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Move on....he has.


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Posted: 06 Sep 05, 06:54 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Listen up, girlfriend. Just do what I do:

Form a little doll of him out of cupcakes and candy. Place it on his doorstep, smash the head in with your foot and attach a note with your number: "Call me or else"

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Posted: 06 Sep 05, 11:09 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Go on with your life as usual. If it's meant to be, then you'll find your way back to each other. Don't chase him. You are not a dog. Act like nothing bothers you, even if it does. It will pass and someone else will catch your eye. Trust me, I'm old and I know. ;) Time heals everything.


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Posted: 06 Sep 05, 15:57 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Thx so much for the comments guys.

I really have tried to get over him, and I had until I saw his whore gf. I'm acting like it doesn't bother me around him.

I should probably explain that he's gone through A LOT with his parents. Worse than I ever thought it would be.

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Posted: 06 Sep 05, 16:11 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I'm probably not the best person to be giving out advice because I've never been in a relationship before, but I do a lot of observing from the sidelines. Anyhow, I'm sure he will probably break up with his "whore girlfriend" sometime soon. A lot of kids in highschool (or at least at my highschool [I'm in the same grade as you]) have very short relationships. Some even for the sake of having a relationship or trying to try something new with another person. Without knowing anything about this guy, I am almost sure that their relationship will probably not last too long. If you haven't totally moved on by the time they break up, then you could go and try to talk to him at that point. But, if this was me, I would probably move on as well, because I would be too nervous to confront him..but then again I am wicked shy so that could be why.

Anyhow, there are plenty of people out there, so don't worry too much.


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Posted: 06 Sep 05, 16:32 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Bob The Shrek wrote:

Move on....he has.


i agree. his life has changed, so has yours. anything you say/feel now is completely new. it has nothing to do with when you were ten yrs old. if he doesn't want to know - it's because 'he doesn't want to know'...get over it...it's not his fault he doesn't want you!!!

finally...DO NOT do any of that 'email/txt/note in locker' kinda stuff - if you do BE WARNED

IT WILL come back and bite you in the ass....this stuff (unrequited love - in letter form) has a habit of becoming a subject of hillarity in the public (school) domain -
walk away - find someone who wants YOU and keep your dignity intact - do NOT pursue this forlornly...it'll end in tears


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Posted: 06 Sep 05, 23:25 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

If this guy doesn't see the sweet girl you are and treasure that, then he is crazy. You can find someone fantastic in time.

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Posted: 07 Sep 05, 14:13 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Thx again guys! I needed some other people's opinions on the situation. I know that the feelings I have aren't from when I was 10, lol, that'd be silly. Like I said, I've had these emotions for the past year and a half and I just became jealous because he's with someone else. It's not only that I want him to go out with me, I want my best friend back.

I just found out a couple days ago that he did some pretty serious stuff (sexual stuff) with two senior girls and he did this around the time he left me and one of his other friends (he's a guy, tho).

Once again, thx!

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Posted: 07 Sep 05, 18:35 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

You can't force someone to love you, let alone like you.

Try to let him go, and if its meant to be, you'll find each other eventually.

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Posted: 07 Sep 05, 18:47 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Drop him like a hot potato....


So he sowing his oats, so to speak. That happens. He is at an age where he can still get away with getting it on with multiple partners, and get away with it.

He, obviously, does not deserve you....


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Posted: 07 Sep 05, 21:02 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Don't get me wrong, I don't want to necessarily love him, I just want to be able to communicate with him again. *sighs* I've had so much luck every year with my best friends, each year, they've either moved or left me. Maybe this is trying to tell me something.. thx guys.

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Posted: 07 Sep 05, 22:49 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

It's hard to let go of the past isn't it. I was in a relationship once and it was hard to let go, that was almost three years ago I had it, but I've let go now. I had to, I knew there was no way to get together again with her.

It's similar to friends, you don't want to forget them, but they go in their own crowd, and you go in your own crowd and the friendship basically doesn't exhist, even if you don't hate eachother.


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