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Posted: 02 Nov 05, 20:28 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

to anyone here who had to do this, I need advice on how to come out to my parents.


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Posted: 02 Nov 05, 21:15 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

*3* Forever88 wrote:

to anyone here who had to do this, I need advice on how to come out to my parents.


Look - I am not gay, but I am a parent. So this is how I would deal with my child.

Sit down, and say it. End of story.
Do not beat about the bush.
Do not use euphamisms.

Pick a quiet moment. Make sure the television is off. Take the telephone off the hook. Make sure you will not be disturbed.

Sit with both parents. Do not tell one without the other.

Be straight, (Excuse the pun) and be confident.

Assure them that this is not a phase, or a mental illness.

Be open, be honest and just be yourself.

Your parents really do love you.

Do not argue, nor raise you voice.

All sounds good - I know, but just be true to yourself.

It is that EASY.

Now off you go and do it!





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Posted: 02 Nov 05, 21:29 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

John S Stuart wrote:

*3* Forever88 wrote:

to anyone here who had to do this, I need advice on how to come out to my parents.


Look - I am not gay, but I am a parent. So this is how I would deal with my child.

Sit down, and say it. End of story.
Do not beat about the bush.
Do not use euphamisms.

Pick a quiet moment. Make sure the television is off. Take the telephone off the hook. Make sure you will not be disturbed.

Sit with both parents. Do not tell one without the other.

Be straight, (Excuse the pun) and be confident.

Assure them that this is not a phase, or a mental illness.

Be open, be honest and just be yourself.

Your parents really do love you.

Do not argue, nor raise you voice.

All sounds good - I know, but just be true to yourself.

It is that EASY.

Now off you go and do it!





thats what i said but his parents are hard to tell this to, relaly if u knew the half of it-

"Be straight, (Excuse the pun)"

thast funny when i was trying to explain it i said "this is a sticky situation" hows that for a punn??? fits good and i didnt even try, oh Queen is pulsing through my veins (intended)


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Posted: 02 Nov 05, 22:02 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

There's 3 ways to tell them. Pick which ever you find more appropiate?

- You won't ever have to worry about me getting a girl pregnant.

- As long as we have an extreme conservative president you won't have to spend thousands of dollars on my wedding.

- I am gay, but I have very good news. I just saved a whole bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to GEICO.


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Posted: 02 Nov 05, 22:03 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I have no suggestions as I havent and probably never will come out to my mother but best of luck to you.


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Posted: 02 Nov 05, 22:07 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Mr.Jingles wrote:

There's 3 ways to tell them. Pick which ever you find more appropiate?

- You won't ever have to worry about me getting a girl pregnant.

- As long as we have an extreme conservative president you won't have to spend thousands of dollars on my wedding.

- I am gay, but I have very good news. I just saved a whole bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to GEICO.


I love that last one.


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Posted: 02 Nov 05, 22:25 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I need to know more about your specific situation. For example, socio-economic status, religion, and past experiences all play into the reaction you will receive. Also, do your parents know a lot of other gay people? What are their reactions to other gay people? Give a little more info and I'll tell you the best way to go about it.


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Posted: 02 Nov 05, 23:10 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Use the Nike method: Just do it.


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Posted: 02 Nov 05, 23:57 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Mr.Jingles wrote:

- I am gay, but I have very good news. I just saved a whole bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to GEICO.


LMAO

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Posted: 03 Nov 05, 04:19 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

To most, this is indeed the hardest thing to do EVER.
To realy help you you do need to give some more info about your parents and your background.
But in general parents' reactions are not half as bad as one thinks on forehand. And yes, I do realise that we are a bit different and privileged in the Netherlands. But what John S says, is true: your parents DO love you - unconditionally.

But you have to tell them SOMEtime; keeping this all to yourself is eventually just as bad for your well-feeling. But don't tell untill you truly feel that you are up to it.
In general I'd suggest to start with your mom only - talk to her and then take her out for a cup of coffee (REALY!! - take her out after you told her!)

Good luck!


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Posted: 03 Nov 05, 05:23 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Just say: "Look folks, I prefer the funnel, not the tunnel."

You'll soon be mincing around, affecting a high pitch squeal and getting hysterical over minor things with the best of them.


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Posted: 03 Nov 05, 06:35 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Mr.Jingles wrote:

There's 3 ways to tell them. Pick which ever you find more appropiate?

- You won't ever have to worry about me getting a girl pregnant.

- As long as we have an extreme conservative president you won't have to spend thousands of dollars on my wedding.

- I am gay, but I have very good news. I just saved a whole bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to GEICO.



i vote for the last one russel


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Posted: 03 Nov 05, 09:04 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

If you are who I think you are (I'm old - I can't remember crap half the time) - but didn't we meet at the concert in NJ...& I had a comment about your shoes...

If you are this person - bud - your mom's VERY PROUD of you - she likes the fact that you aren't afraid to express yourself. I really don't think you're gonna have to worry about anything.

Always just be yourself - don't feel that you have to be or act a certain way just to appease others. And don't feel that you have to live up to other peoples' expectations, either. Don't act a certain way or don't hold yourself back from doing something because it may seem out of the ordinary. Don't be afraid to look outside of the box or push the envelope.

Life doesn't come with a book of instructions - you write it as you go along. Make the best of yours.

Hmmm, who said, "ya just gotta strong and believe in yourself..." sound familiar? :o)

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Posted: 03 Nov 05, 09:40 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Miss Bea Haven<br><h6>I'm Not Roger</h6 wrote:

If you are who I think you are (I'm old - I can't remember crap half the time) - but didn't we meet at the concert in NJ...& I had a comment about your shoes...

If you are this person - bud - your mom's VERY PROUD of you - she likes the fact that you aren't afraid to express yourself. I really don't think you're gonna have to worry about anything.

Always just be yourself - don't feel that you have to be or act a certain way just to appease others. And don't feel that you have to live up to other peoples' expectations, either. Don't act a certain way or don't hold yourself back from doing something because it may seem out of the ordinary. Don't be afraid to look outside of the box or push the envelope.

Life doesn't come with a book of instructions - you write it as you go along. Make the best of yours.

Hmmm, who said, "ya just gotta strong and believe in yourself..." sound familiar? :o)

XoXo-
Miss Bea
FHg@queenzone.com







That was me


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Posted: 03 Nov 05, 10:19 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I think i'll leave it to them in my will, or tell them at their funerals, which ever one of us dies first.


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Posted: 03 Nov 05, 10:21 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

If you feel so inclined - FHg@queenzone.com

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Posted: 03 Nov 05, 11:09 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Everyone, I'm gonna tell em. Just blatantly flat out say "Well guys, i like to pack the fudge."


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Posted: 03 Nov 05, 11:23 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Good on ya!!
I wish you luck.

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Posted: 03 Nov 05, 12:03 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

13 dear.


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Posted: 03 Nov 05, 13:42 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

k, chickening out now. My dad is away, and my mom is pushing it out of me!


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