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Posted: 21 Feb 06, 04:38 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I dont know what the hell I'm gonna do!!!

Warning: this has NOTHING to do with Queen!

Have any of you guys ever been in a situation, where someone liked you, and you didnt like them back? Well, anyways...heres my story, it wont be too long:

There is this guy that I've been friends with for like almost 4 years...I got his number when I used to work at a grocery store here in Milwaukee...anyways, I did kinda like him at first, but as I got to know him, I could see that he really wasnt my type...anywho, I still wanted to be friends with him anyways, because hell, I dont mind having another friend. But I wish that was the case with him:

HE IS HEAD OVER HEELS IN LOVE WITH ME!!!

All he talks about, is he'll be happy when we finally hook up...but guess what, its NOT GONNA HAPPEN! Everytime I think about kissing him, it make me want to lick up my own vomit. And plus, I just dont want a boyfriend right now...because I dont have anything good to offer any guy, NOTHING GOOD! I just moved back home w/my parents, I work 3rd shift at a hotel, I dont hardly make any money as it is, and besides the fact, I just dont have a desire for a guy right now.

But the hard part of it, is that I still want to be friends with him nontheless, and I do love him, but not in the romantic sense. I just dont feel those kinda feelings toward him. My question for you guys is:

Should I just go with him, because I feel sorry for him?

Should I just change my cell phone number, and just forget about him? (which would be HARD cause I know how much he loves me!)

Can you actually go with someone you arent attracted to, and grow an attraction to him/her?

I really am sick of being sad over this, and the weird part about it, is that I dont want to lose him...yeah, I know it sounds like I'm contradicting myself, but its true...its kinda like the same situation with Freddie Mercury, and Mary-Austin...I'm pretty sure that he loved her, but he wasnt In-love with her, theres a difference!! Thats the same thing here. Plus, he acts kinda "slow" sometimes, a little off at times, like he acts childish, but not on purpose.

I'm really tired of crying over this, what should I do?


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Posted: 21 Feb 06, 04:54 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

How about being honest and tell him the truth? He can decide himself if he wants to be "just a friend" or not. If you like him you should give him that chance.


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Posted: 21 Feb 06, 04:58 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

you shouldn't go out with him becouse you feel sorry for him. i did that once and now i can't stand that guy.I don't know why i just can't stand talking with him .We were really good friends. He didn't do anything wrong I just didn't like him as a boyfriend and i felt the same way about kissing him like you.
Beter don't go out with him, tell him that you don't want to ruin your friendship

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Posted: 21 Feb 06, 05:02 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I've been honest, and I told him, that I'm really not attracted to you...and he still wants me to be his girl, like he'll say, oh okay, I understand, but I can tell, thats not gonna stop him from persuing me...its a VERY SENSITIVE situation. I feel that if I give in, and go with him, I'm giving up on myself, and I'll feel thats not fair to me. Theres been plenty men, that I was attracted to, but none of them ever gave me the time or day!! Why should I always have to "give in." I "gave in" to my last boyfriend, and he ended up dumping my nieve ass!

Dating is tough, especially where I live, people are close minded here in Milwaukee, very closed minded!!


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Posted: 21 Feb 06, 05:22 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

onelonelypussycat wrote:

I've been honest, and I told him, that I'm really not attracted to you...and he still wants me to be his girl, like he'll say, oh okay, I understand, but I can tell, thats not gonna stop him from persuing me...its a VERY SENSITIVE situation. I feel that if I give in, and go with him, I'm giving up on myself, and I'll feel thats not fair to me. Theres been plenty men, that I was attracted to, but none of them ever gave me the time or day!! Why should I always have to "give in." I "gave in" to my last boyfriend, and he ended up dumping my nieve ass!

Dating is tough, especially where I live, people are close minded here in Milwaukee, very closed minded!!


Hmm.. Your words has changed a bit.. first you talk about "licking up your own vomit", now you ask yourself the question "what if I give in?".

I can't really advice you. But it seems that this guy wants to give you the time and love you ask for. If you really don't feel anything for him, then stay clear to him. But if you doubt.. why don't you just try it?


I got to try al little more,

because I'm an asshole but I'm learning.



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Posted: 21 Feb 06, 05:28 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

if you think that you'll give up on yourself if you give in then you should tell him how does this situation make you feel and that there is no chance for you two to become a couple. if he doesn't respect your fellings maybe he's not even a good friend

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Posted: 21 Feb 06, 08:27 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

If you don't have romantic feelings for the guy, it would be cruel to pretend you do. No one likes being played. It's clear you don't WANT to hurt him, but it also seems he's going to be hurt at some point anyway. He loves you. By not telling him straight out that you're not at all interested in him romantically, you're just putting off the inevitable - and that just might include losing his friendship completely. At least fessing up now - firmly - may allow the two of you to remain friends.


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Posted: 21 Feb 06, 11:00 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

say your lesbian, it works for me, well i dont say that but this girl i work with thinks im gay, theres a reason for that, its to keep her away from me, she asked me out 5 times and it was the only way to keep her away, but shes starting to click because she caught me having it off with her best mate lol, my excuse at the time was, im 15 im going through a rough time im confused


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Posted: 21 Feb 06, 11:57 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Luke Taylor...that made her leave you alone, lol!!

I dont think that will really work with him...he knows that I've had other boyfriends, so, trust me, that wont work, but still, funny story!


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