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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 19:53 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

My dear longtime friend and ex-roomate in college, and an old bandmate, Brian passed away yesterday from a heart attack. :( He was only 36 years old. I am in shock at the moment, and just don't know how to react yet. He and i were pretty close for the last 16 years and i will miss him. He was a Queen fan too, and we shared that musical venture together. He will be missed sorely by me, his wife, and by the Queen and Zeppling Community. Sorry i am venting here, but he was a Queen fan and visited this site numerous times in the past.


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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 19:57 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

:( I'm really sorry :( :( :( This is so sad. ;_; It seems so unreal when it doesn't happen to you. :(


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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 19:58 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

shwhat wrote:

aww thats so sad im sorry for your loss. i dont mean to be nost buy what made him die from a heart attack at such a young age?


We don't know exactly as of yet. But he has always eaten badly and drank beer alot, and just a rock n roller at heart. That lifestyle isn't good.


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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 19:59 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

My deepest sympathies. ;_;


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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 20:01 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

My condolences. It never gets easy when you lose someone close but you should remember the good times and not the bad.

Take care.

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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 20:02 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Thanks everyone, it really does mean alot just to hear your sympathys. It is gonna be a hard long adventure without him. His guitar will never play again. :(


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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 20:07 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I'm sorry, that's terrible. I hope you and all effected by his death get better! But oddly, just today at school I heard from a friend a similar story..it actually sounds just the same..


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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 20:09 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Iam very sorry to hear of your loss. But i know are words will not take away your pain at this difficult time . You will have to be strong.

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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 20:09 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I'm very sorry for your loss.


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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 20:12 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

deepest sympathies my friend. losing a friend is very hard, its like losing a family member. my condolences to you and your friends family, jsut remember the memories and how awesome they were with him, and he IS rockin out with freddie now so there ya go ;-)


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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 20:51 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

Thanks guys. :) You all are sweet.


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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 21:15 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

My deepest condolences.

Losing a friend is losing many times more difficult than losing a family member, so I can imagine how difficult this must be for you.

Stay strong... life only goes on.


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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 21:25 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I'm so sorry to hear this. The pain of losing someone close is incredible and takes time to lessen. Many of us have been there and understand what you're going through. My deepest sympathies to you and to his family.



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Posted: 28 Nov 06, 21:27 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I am sorry for the loss of your bandmate and friend so suddenly. A good friend of mine of 16 years died suddenly two weeks ago. It is not a good thing. I don't like it. It is incomprehensible. Delores was the hardest working woman I have ever known. She had 11 kids (grown now) She always put others before herself which resulted in her falling asleep instantly whenever she sat down. She slept off and on during many theater movies. I would nudge her, "Delores, wake up!" So, as she lay there in her coffin I said, "Delores, wake up, wake up. I'm not kidding. You have to wake up! Now!" Hmm, well, that didn't work. I find two Queen songs helpful for these kinds of situations. One is Roger Taylor's Say It's Not True. Some say crying is good because it releases emotions. In addition I have my own unfounded scientific theory that crying somehow rebalances the body chemistry. The other song is The Show Must Go On. I don't know how old you are, but maybe 20 years ago there was a book called On Death And Dying by Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. She talked about five stages of grief patients (long-term illnesses), family and friends MAY go through, and not in any particular order. Denial and Isolation. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. Acceptance. These can take hours, days, weeks, months, years, and even decades in some cases. One day you may find yourself at peace and accepting what has happened, and then the next day you might be madder than hell about it. You may find yourself shifting in and out of the various stages, and, apparently, that is normal (if it is not too extreme such as wanting to harm yourself or others.) Here is a link in case you or someone you know may find it helpful. http://www.psy.pdx.edu/PsiCafe/KeyTheorists/KublerRoss.htm The dilemma of having someone close to you die is not only the loss of the person, but is also a partial loss of the person YOU WERE with that person. And being in a band there is the creative exhilaration you all experienced that may shift. I wish you well. Keep the Faith (whatever that might mean to you.)


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Posted: 29 Nov 06, 01:01 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

That's awful news.... 36. Just awful.

"Losing a friend is losing many times more difficult than losing a family member"

??? Depends on the family.


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Posted: 29 Nov 06, 04:03 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

I'm So Sorry


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Posted: 29 Nov 06, 05:02 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

My condolences. I'm sorry for your loss.

May he rest in peace.


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Posted: 29 Nov 06, 07:40 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

i'm sorry for your loss. it really sucks when someone has to go far away. but i guess he's in a happier place now.

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Posted: 29 Nov 06, 09:33 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

That's awful. My deepest sympathies. I've never lost someone close to me, apart from my dog and that was bad enough, so I can't say I understand how you feel. I just hope you're all right.
Take care. I'll put in a prayer for you tonight.


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Posted: 29 Nov 06, 09:44 Edit this post Reply to this post Reply with Quote

So sorry about your loss.


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